All-Good and Merciful Lord, I know that any enduring happiness in my life dependeth upon my wholehearted love for Thee and upon mine actions according to Thy Holy will in all things; wherefore, direct, my soul, O God, and fill my heart. I seek to please Thee alone, for Thou art my Creator and my God. Preserve me from pride and self-love. Let reason, modesty, and chastity adorn me. Idleness is hateful unto Thee and breedeth vice; grant unto me the inclination to be fruitful in labor, and bless Thou my work.
Thy law commandeth that man and wife live in chaste matrimonial union; wherefore lead me, Holy Father, to this blessed calling not for the satisfaction of passions but unto the fulfillment of Thy commandment; for Thou hast said that is not good that man should live alone and, having created woman as his helper, Thou blesses them to be fruitful and multiply that they may fill the earth.
Hear my humble prayer which ascendeth unto Thee from the depths of my heart: Grant unto me an honest and pious spouse that, through our love and harmony, together we may praise Thee, our Compassionate God, the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto the ages of ages.
Amen.
http://www.saintgregoryoutreach.org/2010/01/prayer-to-find-spouse.html
Orthodox Christians are to search for a spouse in a very different way than our postmodern culture teaches us to, and for very different reasons than it gives.
On marriage, St. John Chrysostom says, “If a man and woman marry to satisfy their sexual appetites or to further the material aims of themselves or their families, then the union is unlikely to bring blessings. But if a man and woman marry in order to be companions on the journey from earth to heaven, then their union will bring great joy to themselves and to others.”
With St. Valentine’s Day coming up, I felt this would be a good time to share the above prayer from saintgregoryoutreach.com which I found due to one of Fr. Josiah Trenham’s many great videos on YouTube. Two of these are titled “Orthodox Dating 101” and “Godly Marriage and Virginity: Paths to Holiness.” I highly recommend them both. Additionally, I recommend Orthodox Talks by Priestmonk Kosmas in Australia, which can also be found on YouTube. He has several videos on marriage, one such titled “Whom to Marry and Whom Not to Marry.” A wonderful saint to pray to in your search to find a spouse is St. Xenia of St. Petersburg, may she intercede for us.
A few books on the Orthodox view of marriage I highly suggest reading are “On Marriage and Family Life” by St. John Chrysostom, “Marriage: An Orthodox Perspective” by John Meyendorff, “Marriage: A Spiritual Arena” by Archimandrite Vassilios Bakoyiannis, and “The Sacrament of Love” by Paul Evdokimov.